Child Mental Health and Positive Thinking

By: Dr. Jeff Brockman, Counselor, New Leaf Counseling Group - Charlotte NC

Positive thinking is way to train new habit that has been shown to greatly improve symptoms of child mental health.

How Optimistic is Your Child?

Would you like to protect against issues with child mental health at home? Against depression and anxiety? Would you like for your child to be more resilient and optimistic? Speaking as a recovering pessimist and as a professional counselor at New Leaf Counseling Group in Charlotte, NC, I can assure you that we can be more driven by positive thinking - and less prone to mood disorders—and so can our children.

Positive thinking is way to train new habit that has been shown to greatly improve symptoms of child mental health.

What is the COST of missing out on Positive Thinking?

The cost of negative thinking is likely much greater than we suspect because much of it occurs at the edges of awareness or below awareness. We all think a lot more than we perceive ourselves to be.

Positive thinking is way to train new habit that has been shown to greatly improve symptoms of child mental health.

Martin Seligman, past president of the American Psychological Association, describes pessimistic thinking as more harmful than realistic or optimistic thinking--and in three ways.

3 Ways Positive Thinking Supports Child Mental Health:

Finally, People with habits of positive thinking have less physical ailments, which improves strain on child mental health.

1st Way Positive Thinking Supports Child Mental Health: Mood Disorders

First, people who think more pessimistically are much more prone to depression and anxiety.

2nd Way Positive Thinking Supports Child Mental Health: Academic Performance

Second, positive thinking improves academic performance. People do not do as well in school (think “I don’t test well” as opposed to “I can do well on this test”) when there is ot a habit of positive thinking.

3rd Way Positive Thinking Supports Child Mental Health: Soothe Physical Ailments

Finally, People with habits of positive thinking have less physical ailments, which improves strain on child mental health.

The Three Dimensions of Thought - Solutions to Child Mental Health Using Positive Thinking

Positive thinking is way to train new habit that has been shown to greatly improve symptoms of mental health, including child mental health.

We all have developed an "explanatory style", which is how we explain good and/or bad events to ourselves in our own Mind as we go through our daily Life.

The counseling school of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) refers to these as ANTs—automatic negative thoughts. There are three dimensions of our inner thinking:

1) Permanence

2) Pervasiveness

3) Personalization

Distortions in these types of thoughts cause a lot of depression and anxiety symptoms for many People who would benefit from seeing a professional counselor or therapist, as well as with child mental health.

Before we get into those thought distortions, let’s first take a look at how we interpret adverse events which will give us more insight into child mental health as well.

Distortions in these types of thoughts cause a lot of depression and anxiety symptoms for many People who would benefit from seeing a professional counselor or therapist, as well as with child mental health.

1st Solution to Child Mental Health Using Positive Thinking

Attributing Permanent Causes

If we believe the causes of adverse events to be permanent, then we are more likely to be depressed and anxious. If we think the causes of adverse events are temporary, then we will be less depressed and anxious. Examples of adverse events include a classmate/friend not speaking, a friend not returning a call, or an appliance breaking at home.

While these events may seem insignificant, our brain processes thoughts four to five times faster than we talk. Remember, much of our negative thinking occurs at or below our level of awareness.

If someone believes the condition to be permanent (meaning, nothing can be done about it), then s/he is more likely to be depressed or anxious. The same goes for child mental health.

Envision two children. One child says, “I don’t do well on tests” and the second says “I didn’t do well on that test.” The first child has a permanent explanatory style of thinking and the second has a temporary style.

When a child says they don’t test well (and many parents, teachers, and children do say this), it matters whether they believe the condition is permanent or one that can be changed.

If someone believes the condition to be permanent (meaning, nothing can be done about it), then s/he is more likely to be depressed or anxious.

2nd Solution to Child Mental Health Using Positive Thinking

Pervasive Thought

Pervasiveness is the second lens through which we should look to analyze our thoughts. While permanence is a function of time, pervasiveness is a function of the spaces or spheres in our lives.

If something is pervasive, it will affect many aspects of our lives; pervasive refers to global, not specific. “No one ever speaks to me” is a pervasive explanation; “sometimes people do not speak to me in gym class” is more situational.

If we think no one ever speaks to us in any situation (and, again, this thought may be below the surface of our awareness) we are more likely to be depressed or anxious than if we only think it happens in gym class (specific place).

If we believe the causes of adverse events to be permanent, then we are more likely to be depressed and anxious. If we think the causes of adverse events are temporary, then we will be less depressed and anxious. The same goes for child mental health.

3rd Solution to Child Mental Health Using Positive Thinking

Personalizing Thoughts

Children who blame themselves have an internal style of personalization and children who blame (attribute fault to) others and/or circumstances have an external style of personalization. The therapeutic implications for child mental health are similar.

Of the three dimensions of thought, personalization is the most nuanced. Personalization involves whether we see ourselves at blame for the events in life. We need to nuance this term because it’s related to responsibility.

Children who blame themselves have an internal style of personalization and children who blame (attribute fault to) others and/or circumstances have an external style of personalization.

An internal style of explanation, wherein we constantly see ourselves at fault or as the cause of bad events, can lead to depression, anxiety, and/or guilt, as opposed to a cognitive habit involving more positive thinking. Depressed people are constantly blaming themselves and feeling guilty over things that are not their fault.

On the other hand, an external style of explanation involving more positive thinking, where we see forces outside of ourselves to blame can be interpreted as an unwillingness to take responsibility. We need to find a middle ground.

Positive thinking provides the middle that is best suited for child mental health. Our diverse counselor and therapist team in Charlotte, NC has room for your child to GROW.

Let’s clarify this nuance through an example. Say two children’s parents are going through a divorce.

One sibling explains internally that “it is my fault because so many of their fights are about us” (the kids). The other sibling explains externally, “mom and dad fight a lot because they have different views.”

The first explanation results from self-blame and leads to more anxiety and depression. In the second explanation, the other sibling does not blame herself or see herself as the cause of her parents fighting.

Positive thinking is way to train new habit that has been shown to greatly improve symptoms of child mental health.

Why You Should Consider The Role of Positive Thinking When it Comes to Child Mental Health

We have established that we can identify the negative attributions in the thought of our children (and ourselves), but is there anything that can be done about it? In answer to this question, there is good news and bad news.

On the bright side, the negative thinking patterns of our children and ourselves can be changed. The bad news (depending on how we interpret) is that changing our thought patterns requires work.

The work is not complicated, but it does require effort. Almost like digging a hole — easy to learn, but can be hard work to break the ground and lift the dirt.

When it comes to child mental health, most could use some support with positive thinking. If you are in Charlotte, NC, then consider contacting the diverse therapist and counselor team at New Leaf Counseling Group.

Dr. Jeff Brockman is a Counselor at New Leaf Counseling Group in Charlotte, NC. He specializes in working with Adults & Adolescents with Depression & Anxiety Symptoms, as well as disruptive school behavior and academic performance issues, including Executive Functioning and ADHD. Whether you are interested in child mental health or services for an Adult, feel free to him directly for an initial consultation at (980) 298-8721, or even book an appointment online today.